Interfaith Couple – Interfaith Family?

I blog about Judaism for interfaith families. What that means to me is that, whether or not the person who was not born Jewish has converted, will convert, or never converts, is not the point. The point is that the family itself is an interfaith family because extended family is not all of the Jewish faith. As a result, interfaith issues come up throughout the lifetime of the marriage as different life cycle events occur and/or other changes take place in the lives of the couple, their children, and their extended families. These families have a need for information and a context for some of the Jewish rituals and events they will celebrate.

Interfaith couples are couples in which there is one Jew and one person of another faith. Their need for information and guidance if they choose to make Jewish choices and raise Jewish children is a vital need. They must be able to access that information without having to change who they are or battle institutional insensitivity along the way.  

So – You can be an interfaith couple raising a Jewish family. In that case, you are an interfaith family. You can be a formerly interfaith couple in which one member has converted to join the other in the Jewish faith – and still be an interfaith family. The path is not identical for these two groups, but they have many needs, experiences, and issues in common.

To many people, the fact that I converted after more than 10 years as an interfaith couple raising Jewish children, means that we are no longer an interfaith family. In truth, we are no longer an interfaith couple, but we will always be an interfaith family.

I hope the information you find on this site is helpful to you, whatever your personal religious identity, as you work to create a Jewish identity for your children.

L’dor v’dor: From one generation to the next.


What do you think?