The obvious first reply to this is, “What does a Jew look like?” Certainly, in the time that interfaith marriage has been a force in the Jewish world, the answer to this question has undergone some change. But is it really any different than any other mixing of heritages?
When we visited Ellis Island and walked through the exhibits, it struck me that the photos of the people from each individual country shared many similarities. You could say, with some degree of accuracy, “That person looks Italian.” Fast forward to today. I’m Italian. I’m also French-Canadian. I’m also Jewish, albeit by choice. So no. I don’t look Jewish. Then again, not all Jews are from Eastern Europe these days. Continue reading
There’s one line in Psalm 98 that has stuck in my head since I was a child. As I recall, the line is, Make a joyful noise unto the L-rd.
Throughout my childhood, I often thought of what joyful noise I would make. Would it be the sound of me singing? Or me playing the flute or piano? Maybe even me playing the cello? Then again, maybe it would be me teaching or writing. I just wasn’t sure. Continue reading
Here’s clip from an interview on NBC4 News from November 2006. It’s in conjunction with a piece that ran on international adoption and adoption celebrations in Washington Parent.
I’ve been mulling over the Bognar post on Lilith for a week now. I absolutely share her surprise at the depiction of adoption as anything but a fundamentally positive act. I, too, am surprised when I hear adoption viewed as other than a win-win — at least I am in 90% of the cases. The other 10% – those that involve children from countries without a concept of adoption – leave me with a lot of mixed feelings still to sort.
Ambivalent as I may be about that 10% of adoptions, I am 100% certain that I’m unhappy with the way adoption is trivialized in our culture. More and more, news items about adoption treat the adoptive family as more a foster family or babysitting entity. The”real” mother will look for her “lost” child in time and, when she does, those “nice” adoptive parents will back off. more…
I recently read an interesting post on the Lilith site. For those of you who are not familiar with Lilith, it’s a magazine with a demographic of Jewish feminists. I’m not sure I exactly fit, but I am Jewish and I am an adoptive mom, so I figure I’m close enough.
The piece, Are Adoptive Families Culturally Persecuted?, by Tara Bognar, covers Bognar’s experience at a daylong symposium about adoption. Specifically, Bognar reflects on the keynote speech given by Dr. Debora Spar, President of Barnard College. read more…